We arrived at La Bruguiere – a place that was starting to feel a bit like a home-away-from-home for me – and into the welcoming arms (and multiple cheek kisses, three in the south, left, right, left) of the Boudins. Since my last visit, Brigitte had fixed up a room on the third floor (2nd floor in France), right next to the room that I consider my room. I think after the chateau’s hundreds of years of history my three short residencies qualify it as my room, right? The room that had been redone is primarily for the Boudins granddaughters. It is pink and fresh with twin beds done up in stripes, old fashioned doll furniture and a writing desk. Lila and Audrey loved it at first sight.
We were to spend five days at La Bruguiere before our house would be ready for us. Brigitte and Philippe were, as always, warm and charming hosts. The girls were welcomed to explore the grounds, play in the tree fort and most successfully, swim in the pool. This they very happily did at least twice a day. To the french, 25 degrees celsius is way too cold for swimming, but to my girls, that’s summer weather! It was much warmer than that most days, but if I hadn’t dragged them out for dinner, they would have remained “dans l’eau” until well after dark.
As much as staying in a chateau in the south of France is an ok thing to do, I did want to take the girls on a day trip or two, to really take advantage of their last week of summer vacation.
A couple of years previous, while staying with Brigitte and Philippe, Joey and I had taken a few days to travel to the Camargue. The Camargue is a region south of the Languedoc, and includes several beautiful cities on the Mediterranean: Les Aigues Mortes, Sainte Marie de la Mer and le Gros du Roi. All three towns have beautiful sand beaches and pretty boardwalks. Joe and I had been to Ste. Marie, and had loved it.
All of these destinations are about an hour’s drive from La Bruguiere, so I thought this would be a great overnight trip for the girls and I. They had never been swimming in any ocean, and the weather was hot. The Boudins agreed this was a good idea, and so the three of us set off after breakfast one day for Sainte Marie de la Mer, in the Camargue.
The first thing you notice about the Camargue, are the marshes. They are wet-lands with tall reeds and a distinctive, well…poopy smell. The Camargue is known for its wild horses, flamingos and torreaux (small, back bulls raised for meat and non-violent bull fighting). It is also home to Camarguese Fleur de Sel – sea salt harvested in salt marshes near the shore…mmm my favourite.
As we entered the marshy landscape, we made a game of who could be the first to spot any of the animals. The prize was an ice cream cone. Of course, everyone knew full well we were all getting an ice cream no matter what, but it was fun. The girls were delighted to see flamingos! These flying dinosaurs seem so tropical to us northerners. Like palm trees, flamingos represent “dream vacation” to any and all lovers of the shows Full House, Modern Family, the Brady Bunch or any long-running television series. Eventually the gang is required to film an episode or two in Hawaii or Disney Land/World.
Having successfully spotted all of our visual prey, we found our way to the Bird Sanctuary and Wildlife Preserve. I had visited the park with Joey and thought the girls would enjoy it. We arrived to find the park closed until after lunch.
This happened to us a lot when first settling in in France. As Canadians we kept forgetting about the inevitable closure of almost everything, except restaurants, between the hours of noon and 2 pm. We would start off on a new adventure, only to have our plans thwarted by the long french lunch. We have since gotten the hang of it: there’s no point heading out in the morning unless you do it earlier than 10 am. If you dally too long and are still at home at that hour, you really may as well wait until after 2pm, when everyone is back at it. You’ll have a hard time finding lunch anywhere earlier than noon, and once or twice we have found ourselves in the “in-between” time: nothing open except bars (coffee shops) and brasseries (bars). Butcher store closed, restaurant not yet open. We are still getting used to the idea of plopping ourselves down for a “petit cafe” and a long gander at the passers-by on a terrace during this transitional time. With familiarity and confidence comes the adaptation of local customs.
We decided we would check in to our hotel. I had booked a room on my “smartphone” poolside the evening before, through a discount, last minute website. The hotel was actually a few kilometres from the town, but the price was right. I had wanted to re-create my last visit somewhat and be right in the heart of the action: able to walk from the beach to the hotel, from the hotel to the “pieton” (pedestrian) centre of town, from the boardwalk to the arena, but, you know what? This would be fine.
We drove in to the hotel parking lot and it looked really nice. There was a fountain, and it looked like the rooms were actually individual cottages with thatched roofs. We were kind of thrilled. Fancy.
I walked, mildly confident, up to the reception desk. The man behind the counter asked my name and I gave it somewhat sheepishly – Whiteley is a tough one for the french, ending up as ‘vit-lay’ most times – oh! A look of recognition in his eyes. He spun around and had a quick word with his colleague, opened a cabinet and grabbed a binder. He flipped through the pages, found what he was searching for and smoothly spun the page to face me: “the reservation was for last night, Madame. Desole, you have spent 78 euros for nothing.”
Oh no. Mais non! Mais oui!
What to do? I knew right away he was right. I had obviously not payed attention to the date of my reservation poolside on my “smartphone”. The fault was mine, but the fact remained we needed a place to stay. “You have no rooms for tonight?” “Well…we do have a room, but it is full price, of course, 180 Euros.”
Merde.
“Non, merci Monsieur.” We left the lobby a little defeated. The girls felt the concierge had been very rude, but I think he was just being frank. I felt embarrassed by my error, a little concerned that it had cost us money, and conflicted about how to handle the situation. We sat in the car for a few minutes in the parking lot, the girls aware that this was probably a good time to be quiet and wait. I thought about Joey, off in Ireland, and decided that, really, the last thing he would want to hear was that things were not going well for me. I decided to make lemonade out of lemons (or wine out of sour grapes!).
There are times in life where, essentially, there is nothing to be done except pretend something did not happen. I am particularly skilled at this. I have always identified with Scarlet O’Hara in Gone With The Wind: “I’ll think about that tomorrow.” I realize that line was meant to show her character as shallow and self-absorbed, but I view it quite differently. I think that negative thoughts and regret can be absolutely paralyzing. What we need to do most times is to keep moving forward. Come up with a new approach, a new plan, a renewed energy. The thing is to bring yourself into a place where you feel confident and energized, and then, you deal with that mistake. There is nothing like a shame-over to keep you from taking action. And regret is deeply selfish.
So, we went into town to get ice-cream.